As I reflect on the most recent chain of events in my life, I can't help but see God manifesting Himself in it and I can't help but thank Him as profusely as I laugh at the people who try to steal my joy. Most recently, God has put me in several situations that tested how deeply instilled His ways are in me.
I have had to ask myself, "What would Jesus do?" when I was treated unfairly and had to make a decision as to whether or not I was going to act as ignorant and inconsiderate as the wrong doer or flip my hair "Fancy-style" and do the right thing with a smile as I have been raised to do. I have selflessly given to people in need without thinking twice about it even though I didn't think I could really afford to do it. Something that I viewed as a tragedy has turned out to be what I think is a blessing.
While I like nice things, I do not hoard and hold fast to corruptible things, like money. If I have it and someone I care about needs it, it's theirs, no questions asked. My husband and I decided not to stoop to our wrong doer's level and do the mature thing. Since then, an unbelievable deal on something I really wanted has fallen into my lap and things have been working out for my investments.
So, the moral of the story is, your mother was right and so is your Bible. When your hand is open to give, it is also open to receive. You are blessed so that you can be a blessing. Do what is Godly in all situations, no matter how badly you don't want to. Revenge is the Lord's. God has a wonderful plan for your life, enjoy!
Monday, June 2, 2008
Tuesday, April 15, 2008
Do I still have it?
While my husband lavishes me with as much attention as he can, I sometimes wonder if the recent lack of attention from the opposite sex if because I'm not as attractive as I was in my bachelorette days or the obvious sign that I'm married....the rings. So, every know and then I may flirt with a guy, just to see if I still have it. Totally innocent, I swear.
After a weekend with my very single younger cousins, I realized that I still have it! The lack of attention, well, I guess some men can be intimidated by the fact that I'm young, fun, fabulous, AND married. I discovered that the married part means that you REALLY have it going on 'cause someone has tied you down. LOL!
So, honey, if you ever read this...I was just checking. LOL!
After a weekend with my very single younger cousins, I realized that I still have it! The lack of attention, well, I guess some men can be intimidated by the fact that I'm young, fun, fabulous, AND married. I discovered that the married part means that you REALLY have it going on 'cause someone has tied you down. LOL!
So, honey, if you ever read this...I was just checking. LOL!
Saturday, March 1, 2008
Nostalgia
nos·tal·gia [no-stal-juh, -jee-uh, nuh-] a wistful desire to return in thought or in fact to a former time in one's life, to one's home or homeland, or to one's family and friends; a sentimental yearning for the happiness of a former place or time: a nostalgia for his college days.
Nostalgia can make us want to go back and live in days that have already past us by. Beware, nostalgia may give you a false sense that things were better when....you were in that other relationship, when you had that other job, before you moved out of your parents' house, etc. We tend to forget about the chain of events that made us.....get out of that relationship, get a new job, move out on our own, etc. When reminiscing, remember not to be nostalgic but realistic and most importantly, enjoy the moment you're in. The present is a gift and you will not be able do it over. If you're so stuck in the past that you cannot enjoy life today, maybe you need to make some changes so that you won't be so inclined to want to go backward.
Remember, change is good. Holding on to the past can potentially blocking blessings. Time never moves backward, always forward. And so should you....
Nostalgia can make us want to go back and live in days that have already past us by. Beware, nostalgia may give you a false sense that things were better when....you were in that other relationship, when you had that other job, before you moved out of your parents' house, etc. We tend to forget about the chain of events that made us.....get out of that relationship, get a new job, move out on our own, etc. When reminiscing, remember not to be nostalgic but realistic and most importantly, enjoy the moment you're in. The present is a gift and you will not be able do it over. If you're so stuck in the past that you cannot enjoy life today, maybe you need to make some changes so that you won't be so inclined to want to go backward.
Remember, change is good. Holding on to the past can potentially blocking blessings. Time never moves backward, always forward. And so should you....
Wednesday, February 27, 2008
What the....?!?!?!?
Do you ever wonder why people have aneurysms? Well, Kim Possible, a good friend of mine once suggested that people have aneurysms because they see something that catches their attention and they wonder did anyone else see the same thing. This catchy site is so mind boggling that they find themselves wondering for years and years if anyone else was able to witness this incidence. You know, things that make you saw, "What the...?!?!?!".
For fashionistas, it may be someone wearing white boots in the dead of winter in a non-fashionable way, because it can be done when done correctly. WHAT THE....?!?!?
It could be a crazy man walking down the street BUTT NAKED in the middle of the day. WHAT THE...?!?!?!
Or it could be the plumber or roofer, in my case, not just revealing his crack but his whole behind hanging out of his pants while he is working. I mean really, do you not feel your entire behind being exposed to 37 degree weather? WHAT THE...?!?!?!
Some of these aneurysm causing moments can be avoided with the advancement of technology and the invention of camera phones. I, myself, have been able to avoid several aneurysms by taking pictures and emailing them to my friends so that I can be assured that someone else has witnessed the same foolishness that I have. However, aneurysm causing moments cannot be totally avoided with the help of technology but you can rest assured that someone else saw the exact same thing that you saw and uttered the exact same words...."WHAT THE.....?!?!?!"
For fashionistas, it may be someone wearing white boots in the dead of winter in a non-fashionable way, because it can be done when done correctly. WHAT THE....?!?!?
It could be a crazy man walking down the street BUTT NAKED in the middle of the day. WHAT THE...?!?!?!
Or it could be the plumber or roofer, in my case, not just revealing his crack but his whole behind hanging out of his pants while he is working. I mean really, do you not feel your entire behind being exposed to 37 degree weather? WHAT THE...?!?!?!
Some of these aneurysm causing moments can be avoided with the advancement of technology and the invention of camera phones. I, myself, have been able to avoid several aneurysms by taking pictures and emailing them to my friends so that I can be assured that someone else has witnessed the same foolishness that I have. However, aneurysm causing moments cannot be totally avoided with the help of technology but you can rest assured that someone else saw the exact same thing that you saw and uttered the exact same words...."WHAT THE.....?!?!?!"
Monday, February 18, 2008
Letting Go
It's important to realize that no matter how much you care about a person, when you feel like you are the only one who cares, let it go. It may hurt but open your eye to see the people around you that love you and concentrate on enjoying them and giving them the love they deserve instead of wondering what you did to make that one jerk treat you so badly.
Even though you may feel like you are losing someone, God has sent someone to replace the void you think will be there when you let go of the hurtful relationship. Enjoy what you have instead of trying to force something that isn't going to work out. You'll feel better about it in the end.
After all, God doesn't make mistakes and it is not our place to question. We must have faith and accept things as they are because honestly we may never know why and we are probably better off not knowing.
Even though you may feel like you are losing someone, God has sent someone to replace the void you think will be there when you let go of the hurtful relationship. Enjoy what you have instead of trying to force something that isn't going to work out. You'll feel better about it in the end.
After all, God doesn't make mistakes and it is not our place to question. We must have faith and accept things as they are because honestly we may never know why and we are probably better off not knowing.
Monday, February 11, 2008
Understanding
Growing closer to God should change you. Period. The process should make you think differently, which in turn changes the way you talk and act. It changes the decisions you make and how you respond to people.
In general, you become more understanding and are more likely to put yourself in the other person's shoes before you react. It's hard, at first. Not just because it's a process of change but also because the people who knew you way back when are going to throw the old you in your face. Most of the time it won't be on purpose. But don't get offended or take it personal. Put yourself in their shoes. Just take it as a compliment, remind yourself how far you've come, and smile. Remember, the changes have not gone unnoticed. If no one else notices, God does.
It's funny because people don't remember exactly what you said or did to them but they do remember how you made them feel. So pause for a second before you react, think about where the other person is coming from. Try to be more understanding because, believe it or not, everyone has a story.
In general, you become more understanding and are more likely to put yourself in the other person's shoes before you react. It's hard, at first. Not just because it's a process of change but also because the people who knew you way back when are going to throw the old you in your face. Most of the time it won't be on purpose. But don't get offended or take it personal. Put yourself in their shoes. Just take it as a compliment, remind yourself how far you've come, and smile. Remember, the changes have not gone unnoticed. If no one else notices, God does.
It's funny because people don't remember exactly what you said or did to them but they do remember how you made them feel. So pause for a second before you react, think about where the other person is coming from. Try to be more understanding because, believe it or not, everyone has a story.
Sunday, February 3, 2008
Crying
Sometimes we are put in a situation that we really aren't too fond of thinking that it's temporary. Only to find that we have to deal with for a little longer than we planned. That's when we think up little scams to try to get out of it but they never work. God never puts us in a situation we can't handle. Remember what your mother told you when you were failing algebra in high school, "What doesn't kill you will make you stronger" and "You'll be thankful that you did it later". It sounds good but while you're in the midst of a hard time, that's not exactly what you want to hear. No one likes a complainer. I am the first person to tell someone to change what they don't like or shutup and deal with it if they aren't going to do anything about it.
Even when you have your strongest game face on, it's okay to let your guard down and CRY. In private, or course. Or maybe even on the shoulders of your confidant. If you don't vent, you WILL explode. And that is never good. Crying doesn't fix the problem but you will feel better that you let your frustrations out. Then wipe your tears, brush your shoulders off, and keep it moving. Now you can think clearly about how you are going to make the changes that you need to.
Even when you have your strongest game face on, it's okay to let your guard down and CRY. In private, or course. Or maybe even on the shoulders of your confidant. If you don't vent, you WILL explode. And that is never good. Crying doesn't fix the problem but you will feel better that you let your frustrations out. Then wipe your tears, brush your shoulders off, and keep it moving. Now you can think clearly about how you are going to make the changes that you need to.
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